What are you praying for?
We live in a society of “give it to me now!” We often pray incessantly for this thing, whatever it is to be delivered to us, but yet we put limitations on it. We want this, but can’t have that, its got to fit in this but it can’t fit in that. Our standards are so high, but the real question do you fit the standards of that thing you are praying for? My girl or my girl has check boxes that must be met, but do you meet them? If you are looking for him/her, is he/she looking for you? You should be praying to ensure you are ready to receive it.
Ask and it will be given to
seek and you will find;
knock and the door will be opened to you.
For everyone who asks, receives; and the one who seeks, finds;
and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
Which one of you would hand his son a stone
when he asked for a loaf of bread,
or a snake when he asked for a fish?
If you then, who are wicked,
know how to give good gifts to your children,
how much more will your heavenly Father give good things
to those who ask him. (Matt 7:7-11)
What is missing in your life?
Let’s just focus on the relationship, ladies we are out here praying the “CiaraPrayer” please give me a “Russell”, or men you are rapping the Jay Z mantra, to get your “Beyonce” dial it back alittle, first of all, we don’t know Russell or Beyonce, outside of social media, and television, so they may not be what you want for real, but the picturesque relationship is enticing. You fail to realize that’s anyone can have that!!!, you dont have to get the same type of person you have to get the right person for you!!!, I am a crier, I wear my heart on my sleeve, I am often too trusting, and I see the spirtual in everything, you have to be the right type of man to help me, be with me, understand me stand with me!. not every man can handle that, and nor can every woman.
The Ciara Prayer (its a real thing, there is a book too!!)
“I prayed for a God-fearing man, I prayed for discernment. I prayed for wisdom; to really learn from the wisdom that I’m gaining from the experience that I’m going through. I prayed for a man that loved kids because obviously me having my son. If you’re gonna love me you gotta love him.” Ciara
I am not saying, don’t pray for your companion, by any means because I am a true and wholehearted believer in Prayer!!!. But you have to be specific and understand what you are bringing to the table and to that person you are praying for.
Where are you?
First, you may be in you season of Hurt, pain, lies and cries. You are asking for a person to save you from that!!, you dont just want a companion you want a superhero!!. You may be in a financial situation and you are praying for a someone with money to help you out of the situation. and that’s real!, you actually need a Finance Manager. With that said assess do you real want a companion or just a “fixer” No more walking around with your mask and glasses on, being cute while hiding inside prose of self reliance, “Strong and independent” yes that’s wonderful but you are also scared and vulnerable, and want to just lie in the arms of someone who will covet listen and hold you when you cry. Stop hiding, those with sight can see!!
Face your fears!!!
You have to face your fears as you reach for that partner, that person. Fear is handled so many different ways, running, standing, screaming crying, Yes we beg, and plead but its just fear, its what makes you human. don’t apologize for being the emotional you, if that’s who you are. Trust me if the right one is with you, you can scream, jump up and down and they will be right by your side. Face who you are and why if companionship is because you are lonely own it and recognize it. You could settle for the wrong one so are not alone. You may need to be alone for a bit.
The things that you want are often within reach, or maybe you had them already but you are too afraid, insecure to notice. it may take some sacrifice that you are not willing or able to make right now. But as you begin your own personal healing, and continued prayers, ask for Discernment!! pray to you are able to recognize what is true, and that even though who you meet someone doesn’t fit in a nice neat box that they may be the right person.
Are you healed? and you are ready and able to receive it your blessings You will sabotage a good thing that could have potentially been that great love, that total package you craved but fear and self doubt is embedded in you so deeply that you feel unworthy and feel you cannot have it, you don’t deserve it, and therefore you are comfortable with letting it go. Be uncomfortable, recognize that you are not fully healed from the disappointment, the loss the hurt. So as you meet someone that you are not so guarded that you inadvertently let the wrong one in.
What do I mean? You meet someone as though you got it together!!!, you don’t have any issues at all, money right, looks right, emotions right.. then you “Catch feelings” and the real you opens the flood gates of fear, paranoia, hurt, distrust. The person you met, may have come as they are, and the wall or mask you put up is what attracted them. But once its off and they find that you are really a broken bird that just needs a little help off that limb, they are not willing, able or invested enough to lend a hand, which can send you spiraling into another deep hole of self doubt and added more bricks to your already tall wall!!
A mindset change, an attitude change may be required but you cannot walk into a new life, being the old you. Be the best you, but update yourself to your new situation. Continue to work on you and its not overnight. Understand what you prayed for is within reach, but its not a fix for you, change for the better and grow.
My prayer is alittle like this, but i hae cut it down alot: Make me “ready” Let me be “healed” I pray for the right one to hold me up, because i wobble alot. that he will not run on the first time emotional me, that he will believe me and believe in me. I should never question him or he me, once we find each other, make me ready lord!!! and grant me discernment!”
Working on you, is never a bad thing, it is a good thing. Its a noble thing and that is where your strength comes from, not the car, not the fancy job, not the good looks, but the accepting who you are, that is what is attractive. Someone who is not afraid to stand in their flaws and say look at me.