Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’” .
In times of change and transitions, it’s easy to lose direction. Take the world today for example, you can see so many people that seem lost, tired and confused.
What people fail to understand is that Transition is not just physically moving, changing your hair or your surroundings. Its also emotional, it is like a rebirth. Each time you gain a “newness” within yourself, you are reborn. Stepping away from the monoutmous, the tiresome, those that take instead of give and share, the way of being that is cumbersome and holding you down, into what lifts you, grow you, feed you and allow you to fly.
you must grow to succeed as you must not only be willing to learn to fly but you know that you have to ability to fly and that is when you will soar- b50love
This is the time more that any time in your life is the time to reflect on what you have done and what is familiar and evolve into something new. Let’s start by stepping away from what we know, and move into this strange world to discover the greater you.
Stay your course and love continuously as it may be difficult to make a transition, but it’s better to move in any direction than to not move at all.
Today’s society has dictated so much, we count, we measure, we label. The “you” has become the number of likes , loves, hearts that we receive. The many out weigh the few. Our manta’s becoming our definition of world that being defined by who we are. To Affirm is taking on a new meaning:
So what are Affirmations?
They are Mind tools, simply training your brain to react to the positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make a positive changes.
Some might consider affirmations to be unrealistic “wishful thinking” and i would counter that those statements are the very basis of doubt and fear. An Affirmation is more than just repeating a mantra, its a belief in oneself to achieve the possible and just strive for the impossible whilst keeping that brain fired up.
ITS MORE THAN REPEATING WORDS
When you hear the term “Affirmation” you may simply think its looking in the mirror and repeating a phrase, its actually understanding Who you are, if you don’t feel great or think you look great have doubts of being great, then simply saying you are great may not be what you need.
Stand in a mirror and look at yourself and I mean really look at yourself, your smile, your hair, your face your nose. Who do you see? Look at all those pieces of you that make you the you YOU are!!! It’s important to see yourself and all your beauty, those things that chink in the armor, those beautiful flaws.
We often hide ourselves from ourselves. Sound crazy, but sit alone and reminisce over the past. We often only think of the good times and skip over what makes us sad, repel from the bad feelings. We quickly change our thoughts, as if you were switching to another Netflix movie, because its too hard to see.
You have to peel back the layers of yourself. What is the pain, what is root, what is the issue that you have worked through or are working on. When we surrender and remove the masks and are fully naked that’s when you begin to heal and recover. Hurt, loss, betrayal, death, violation… all of this dictates how we view our world and our relationships. It may show in our demeanor, your triggers, and the path that lead you through it.
Now that you see yourself in all your glory, its time to heal yourself and do some hard work . You know what you are bringing to the table, you know you from the inside/out. No one can hurt you with your truth. You stand in it everyday. If you need to seek therapy to work through particular issues that you have discovered, then definitely do that. If you need to make amends or forgive yourself and/or someone else for closure and a step towards your healing process, do that. Or, maybe you make a simple change, your wardrobe because you are not representing yourself the way you want to be viewed.
But whatever you discover, this is the basis to your mantra. You are who you say you are: Loved, Successful, winner, survivor.
“If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery
This quote resonates today more than ever, as we find the majority of people working from home.
The faceless dictator often arises without repercussions barking orders and overwhelming their people, with a barrage of emails. Instead of simple correspondence to check the state of matters and ensure their people are safe, well and can handle the work load.
What do you do when you are sent a billion emails a day and are overwhelmed?
Many believe that working from home is great and more relaxed. They can have maximum productivity and many bosses feel they can inundate their employees with even more duties and responsibilities. Many might feel overwhelmed by the number of changes, the many emails and the changes in their work life. So it is important to manage not just your expectations, but the expectations others have of you and give yourself understanding and forgiveness for what you cannot do.
Begin to navigate the transition smoothly, understand your limitations and create dedicated workspaces so you can walk away and break free from the computer.
Self preservation and the understanding of Self is crucial now and if people and bosses don’t understand this may cause an extra layer of anxiety.
Start your day and end your day on a schedule. Try not to be tempted to grab the computer, during your down time. You may find that day has gotten away from you and you have worked the entire day away without a break.
Managers and Directors may not take heed to the above quote but don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, I’m overwhelmed”, “lets set up a phone call”, or simply take a mental health day.
Being well, is not just staying home due to COVID-19, it also means being mentally balanced and maintaining a work life balance at all costs.
Reform is a broad topic, because reform can be applied anywhere in anything. To reform a school, to reform a policy or to reform yourself, which is what I am referring to. Everyone goes thru a season of change, an attempt to change him/herself. Emotions and circumstances can dictate the fire that that is lit in order to initate your change process.
First let me say, you have time. I don’t know your circumstance I don’t know the instance that you awoke and said you needed to change but I can say this, that you must have some time and be patient. Time does heal wounds, but it also allows for the process to sink in so you are not tempted to look back. The old ways and the old you lie dormant awaiting to rear your head back in the that direction and if you have not buckled down and worked through each process of your manifestation you will be sure to tip a little backwards as you climb forwards, and yes it is a climb.
Why did I say reform instead of just change? because to reform by definition is “make changes in (something, typically a social, political, or economic institution or practice) in order to improve it.” Google definition
So you want to make something better, enhance or make a better you. So start with your mantra of self, do better, or be better or do something better.
What lit the fire?
Why, why why… hmmm is that really the question? Because does it matter? Well , in some cases, yes it does. Your reformation can be due that baby you have on the way. You are realizing that the you, is not the real or greatest you that you want to present, that can be emulated. A child, a relationship, a new job even. That’s the beginning of the process and in every beginning, there is going to be some hard paths.
Your childs eyes maybe your salvation to your ultimate
reformation. The change like a butterfly, maybe hard at first. But you must focus
on the end goal.
If it’s a relationship, may I say please show the real you. Make the change for a better already you. Do not change everything about you so you don’t recognize yourself. Okay I need to elaborate this one. You are in a relationship and find the “who you are” is not what that person is looking for, but you realize or think that he/she is the “end all be all” so you get your “fake on” and begin to be this who ever for this person. MISTAKE!!!!
The real you seeps out honey!!, it may be a year, or a week
but one day you will get lazy and pull out the comic books, prop your feet up
and forget who you were trying to be. They will see the you and run or see the
you and stay, either way a whole lotta unnecessary work. So be you dear!!!
Reward your progress
I know your goal is to climb and sit on top of Mount Everest. But you have to settle for climbing a few bushes, then some trees, then a molehill before you start on the mountains. Reward those feats!!!, They are important. Don’t beat yourself up because you haven’t reached the mountain top. You are on your way, there is no time limit on progress.. there is NOT!!!.. In the right time, you will be the right way in no time!! So be patient and enjoy the successes you have. Because if you don’t , you will beat yourself right back to where you started.
So your process rqueires movement, Movement may require leaving and/or dropping someone. Oh yea!!. Bye naysayers, bye mean people, bullies, bye to those that didn’t support you, bye to family also.
Moving up is like having a cold sometimes, certain people just don’t want to be around you anyway. They will slowly start to drop off without you doing a thing. Others will have to be nudged and others you may have to kick out of your way. But you got to be willing to stand all by yourself.
There is going to be alittle left over, you are going to be dusting those haters off for a while. You are going to look up and see all the dirt they left behind. Dirt like doubt, hurt, pain, tears, and you are just gonna dust and dust and dust and wipe and wipe and wipe until finally under all the mess they left you will find that bright and shiny you.
You were hiding under all that debris. Hiding under all the heavy weight of words, and sadness, doubt and hurt. Don’t be afraid of the Debris that’s left. Just get a big dust buster by the name of Self Love and suck all that crap outta there. You may have to get a lint brush too!, those are some dirty people.
Overall Change is gonna come, change is gotta come no matter
what you do or don’t do. You will grow older at the same job, you will look at things
different amoungst the same people and you will grow weak in doing the same
thing. Why not take the opportunity when you feel that nudging of growth and
age and just turn around, I bet the view will be a lot better.